The single most common wiring mistake is to wire the connection between the host processor and remote in a “mirror image”, making it appear as if pin 1 connects to pin 1, but in fact it is connected to pin 4. Lay one connector directly on top of the other, both facing in the same direction, and verify pin 1 to 1, 2 to 2, etc. between both connectors.
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